2021.09.20 06:36 GirlsNightOnly My mom criticized my birth plan, and I’m sad about it
I’m feeling really bummed right now. My mom is usually really respectful of boundaries and is just generally supportive. We were at dinner and my mom had had a bit to drink, and she started getting weirdly emotional about wanting to know my birth plan, and how she could be involved. We had already discussed that only my husband and I would be there, and she had respected that, but she was suddenly in tears like “but what if you need me?!” I was like “if I need you then [husband] will call you…”
we also mentioned that we might just text my sister when I go into labor, and have her text everyone so we don’t have to worry about it, and she again almost started crying because she wanted us to let her know personally when I was going into labor, she wanted to be the one to text everyone. I was like ok if this is really important to you then we will do our best to do that, she is my mom after all so I do want to respect if she feels so intensely about it.
The conversation should have stopped there, but of course then I started telling her my birth plan. I’m going to a midwifery center across the street from a hospital (they’re affiliated) and the birth center doesn’t have an anesthesiologist so I would be prepping for a natural birth. Both my parents kind of scoffed at that, saying I’m “going to regret not having one readily available”. I explained that it’s really easy and common for people to transfer across the street if they decide they need an epidural or if intervention is needed.
Then I mentioned I didn’t want continuous fetal heart rate monitoring, and my mom flipped out. I read that it is linked to a higher rate of unnecessary c-sections, but that it isn’t correlated with better outcomes for the newborns. I sat on trial about it for like 10 mins before basically storming out.
It’s just so exhausting to have your decisions questioned, and I felt like they were trying to scare me because they feel nervous about something they can’t control. I also felt like they were insinuating that I was taking a selfish risk by foregoing continuous heart monitoring, which really upset me. I obviously don’t want to put my baby at risk, but I’m also allowed to care about my body, and to be skeptical about getting sliced to high heaven if it’s not necessary.
I was prepared for this from other people and didn’t plan to share broadly, but this just caught me off guard. My mom texted me later saying “I love you, don’t get pissy at everyone for caring about you” uhmm okay 🖕🏼
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2021.09.20 06:36 AlexBloodwolf42 anyone up for a normal fnaf [five nights at freddys] rp? ill be michael [my au of him you can be any au of ur character that you please]
2021.09.20 06:36 gozen13 19F bored message if you have any interesting story.
2021.09.20 06:36 Candid-Comparison760 This chrysalis never turned green ??
2021.09.20 06:36 ander099 hi! so i crafted this snowflake fountain (see pic) but i noticed that it doesnt do anything i crafted it cos i thought it would be like a fountain, do i need to add something on this to work or is it just that?
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2021.09.20 06:36 fazbearfravium Twitter poll: What's your favourite Angry Birds game?
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2021.09.20 06:36 BirdBrainedBastard Some Odd dialogue I noticed when talking to seam after ch2
both of these are in refference to spamton neo
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2021.09.20 06:36 CoolScooter_ Food did not seem to have digested (Description may be gross )
Kind of weird and gross. I ate a mean containing spinach, onions, and potatoes. About 8 hours later I went to go defecate and it seems like I didn't digest very much of the spinach. This is a really gross description so if you do not want to think about poop then just ignore my post. My stool wasn't really visible as the water was very cloudy. I could see tiny pieces of spinach leaves floating around, looking like nothing happened to them at all in my body and they just passed straight through me. There was no pain at all when passing it through, it felt very easygoing and I only spent at most one minute on the toilet. Is there anything of concern about what happened here? Physically I felt as if there was nothing wrong. It was only when I saw my waste that it seemed a little strange. Not sure if this information is relevant but my post was removed by the automod for not including this: I am a 20 year old male. I don't seem to have any medical issues at the moment. I didn't take a photo of it.
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2021.09.20 06:36 sapphosdaughter5 Any places on campus to warm food?
I’m living off campus and most days my classes will run late so I was wondering if there were any places with microwave access as I don’t really want to eat dining hall food all the time
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2021.09.20 06:36 vietnamesemuscle Optima 19 Interior Cleaning
Hi, I have an Optima LX 19 and my cloth seats are getting quite dirty. Wondering what people would recommend using to clean the seats, as well as the upholstery, screen, and the rest of the interior? Any recommended cleaning products? Thanks in advance.
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2021.09.20 06:36 MW-BASEBALLCARDS FS - Nate Lowe Rookie Auto - $10 Shipped PWE
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2021.09.20 06:36 arjel_14 After getting hit with those black rods, why isn't there much blood, especially when Sasuke got stabbed many times due to Isshiki's jutsu?
2021.09.20 06:36 SpaceMovieFrom1992 Doordashing at night
Tonight was my first time dashing at night. I normally do it during the evening. I was at Taco Bell picking up two orders and I waited in line for 1.5 hours! Just to get up to the window for them to tell me they threw away one of my orders because it had been longer than 45 minutes.
The lobby was closed so I had to use the drive thru. I had to call the customer and they just canceled their order. So I only made $5 in 1.5 hours.
I will never be doordashing at night anymore.
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2021.09.20 06:36 NewsElfForEnterprise Honda targets annual sales of 70,000 Prologue electric vehicles in U.S. from 2024
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2021.09.20 06:36 BDawgJackson Box Of Goods
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2021.09.20 06:36 diamondsmokerings not trans-related but this seems to be a popular belief among tucutes (trying to make everyone gay). thoughts? i can kind of see where they’re coming from but even so i couldn’t disagree more
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2021.09.20 06:36 ryuu__tama Was nadal's perfomance this year affected by the late scheduling of last year's french open?
2021.09.20 06:36 mysterious_mitch First post here and confession: I feel conflicted towards writing
I don't wanna be vocal about this and I would wanna do this at the same time out of boredom and doubt about myself in writing. I know writing is a lonely job and a habit or hobby or something, but sometimes I can't help but to show insecurity for people who had good narration, excellent plotting, and writing the moments that were the ones I love so much to write.
I lately notice those kind of things I'd love to write, already written in other books the way I almost exactly wanted to in my drafts. But it makes me feel guilty about my drafts. I never finished a whole ass novel, though I made a few complete short pieces but I couldn't wrap around my head the realization that at least I finished something. And as I am typing this, the realization immediately dawned on me. I would stop typing this rant and go on with my writing.
But this may be a good reason why I don't manage to accomplish such longer pieces of writing. I immediately leave it away without touching it anymore, not feeling the need to do it. I procrastinate and became lazy in writing; I even felt deep dismay to myself when I couldn't continue or updated my book posted in Wattpad for a month.
I've given plenty of advices towards other beginner writers, critiquing on a few stories and encouraging but I can't seem to bring it upon myself because for one, no one even says that to me. I don't feel like needing help from others. Or maybe I couldn't wrap it enough on my head because I take it for granted.
I am not ashamed nor proud to say that I took writing for granted. I write occasionally, but not as often as I expected myself to. It's because I was wanting for that recognition that my piece is great. I want to make it satisfying. But rather while I write, I overthink, I feel conflicted, then I feel down about it. I don't wanna say anything about this but I also feel the need to say it too.
I unconsciously realize that I was writing to get quick recognition for the ideas I have put into words.
I do have potential, but it's still simply potential. Even that word can't get me anywhere without writing anything. And at this moment, I feel like I'm running out words to say on this paragraph, though I feel like I need to say anything more.
To any writer here: You can be a writer. You have the capability to create something that YOU love. You have the POTENTIAL to be famous/recognized for it.
But the POTENTIAL to be famous/recognized will only remain as that IF YOU'RE NOT PUSHING HARD ENOUGH AND NOT WRITING ANYTHING.
Thanks for the messy rant.
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2021.09.20 06:36 Ok_Charge2242 Been on depo for 4 years started bleeding
Hi all, as said in the title I’ve been on depo for a little over 4 years. I bled for my first month and haven’t bled since until just today. Anyone else experience this?
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2021.09.20 06:36 starlinkc I just want to see the comment. Please.
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2021.09.20 06:36 fly214573 🤤
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2021.09.20 06:36 athrasher98 Playing Valheim! Party at the draugr village
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2021.09.20 06:36 Majestic_Air1336 Phoebe Yvette Nude Pillow Humping
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2021.09.20 06:36 blehsid A PORTFOLIO worth HOLDING?
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2021.09.20 06:36 weedtreesmatter Here’s a splash page from my upcoming book, Broadleaf. A story about anthropomorphic animals on Leaf Isle and the humans next door. Art by, Robert Jennex. His attention to detail amazes me with each new piece I get!
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